Have you considered tjat she was just a shit person ? I hate people like that so much.
The problem i always had was that when something like that happened, i felt it was my fault.
Like i deserved it or something.
What the hell were you sorry about when you didn't say anything ? I'm not attacking you but the problem for me WAS right there.
There's this easy target energy i seem(ed) to give off which is probably all due to childhood trauma.
Maybe you feel confident in these moments and i know exaclty what you mean, but if it is that easy (i don't mean to be a dick, i lived it and i know how much this hurts) to tear down it's not real.
Internal Family System therapy is helping me a lot with this, and since i am a little more respectful of myself, i find people approach me more (still fa though) I still get attacked, but now i usually retaliate, even if i have to be a petty douchebag.
It feels pretty good actually.
I don't know about you, maybe you do have autism, but i thoight i had it too so i got checked out and turns out it wasn't.
And no you're not the only one, it happened to me way too much.
Truth is most people are shit and some won't even wait for a reason to be an asshole.