what about long term polyamory? advantages, disadvantages?

Oh my the mental load thing.

I have one male partner that's extra awful about it. The other male partner then gets frustrated with the meta because he's not taking up his share of the mental load. And I'm still sitting there doing a fuck ton of chores and feeling for some reason like I don't contribute enough. We all add to that cycle. Thankfully it's a frequent, healthy discussion in our households and I can "tap out" on mental load and my partners largely respond by stepping up to take over.

Feminist reading has basically just become a required part of dating me. Especially uncomfortable stuff that calls them out on their male culture ideas. First time I brought up the mental load with one partner they responded with "I think I do well with that because I ask how I can help!" Handed them that comic on it, and the first thing it calls out is making the women the manager of the household by asking them to delegate tasks. He then felt terrible.

I have no clue how people do this with men who aren't aggressively feminist supporters and willing to acknowledge their privilege with something as simple as reading a comic.

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