At what age did you stop having obsessive crushes?

Probably in my early teens, when I would actively try and connect with them and act on it, and would allow my feelings for this person to actually affect my mood. I think this stopped after I realised that there were values I wouldn't compromise on for a relationship, and started to understand my self-worth. I'm just really picky and it's hard to find somebody that I know well enough to have a crush on, that shares the same values as me.

Now, age 22, I definitely enjoy a quick trip to fantasy land seeing what our future would be like if we got together, but it doesn't affect me emotionally in any way. I usually pick out the ways we wouldn't be compatible while imagining our futures anyway.

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