i’m so sorry your boyfriend is struggling with substances. i dated and lived with an addict who used the same substances as your bf, and it turned into a horrible situation. it sounds like your bf has already lied to you about trying to cut back (which addicts can’t really do anyway) and his drug use is escalating. the big question is, does he want sobriety for himself, or do you think he agreed to see a counselor to appease you? i have been in your shoes before.. i was naive, in love, and thought that going to treatment would solve his problem. but unfortunately it takes serious dedication and internal motivation for the addict to successfully recover. usually they have to hit rock bottom to really want it for themselves… it doesn’t sound like he has. and the journey to rock bottom is fucking heartbreaking and sickening to watch.

i’m not telling you to leave him, but i am warning you that you could be in for some serious fucking trauma if you stay :( i know you want to help him but please remember to put yourself first, because you will always come 2nd to your partners addiction (they can’t even help it). and most importantly, remember the 3 C’s: we didn’t cause it, we can’t cure it, and we can’t control it.