What am I supposed to do with my romantic instinct as a single man?

I’m going to get made fun of for this, but it’s true so I’m gonna talk about it.

A few years ago I got a girl pregnant and she had an abortion. I felt a lot of guilt because of this, and decided not to pursue sex for a while, a couple years actually.

It’s not like my lust dissipated though. So I fell into porn addiction, which creates this vicious cycle of shame and fucked with my self esteem.

So I did my best to stop, which creates another vicious cycle as the more I thought about not doing it the more I wanted to do it.

Anyways, I tried VR Porn and it sort of broke me out of the cycle. There’s a few reasons I think this happened:

  1. VR Porn is done more professionally, so the actresses actually seem to be enjoying themselves and you don’t really come across some of that dark, weird, shameful shit you might stumble into on normal Porn sites.

  2. It does a better job of tricking your body into thinking you’re actually with a woman, so it actually raises my confidence levels and makes me feel like more of a man compared to normal Porn which usually makes me feel like I’m weak. I would equate the feeling I have after using VR Porn to the feeling I get after a decent workout.

  3. The process of interacting with the VR goggles is much more interactive and deliberate. It’s just too easy to pull out my phone and go to my favorite website, next thing I know I’ve got 12 tabs open. But to get into VR you have to get the goggles out, clean the lenses, adjust it to fit onto your head, then get to the web browser, etc.

Now I don’t recommend this as any sort of long term practice, I’m just saying that for me, as someone with a raging libido, VR Porn has helped me drastically cut my time using Porn overall. It’s such a silly concept, but I’ve seriously felt more confident and energetic since I quit using my phone or laptop for Porn and only use VR.

/r/Jung Thread