This article was an amazing read for me today since I've spent the past fortnight banging my head against a wall.

Went on a first date with one recently who made a sweeping promise that he'd take me to a certain European city we both love. (UK here, so a big deal promise but not totally insane). Obviously currently unfeasible with travel restrictions so I just said "yeah yeah, we'll see". Some minor attention bombing, good morning texts fairly consistently, references that he isn't using tinder anymore. Just thought I'd actually struck on someone into me.

Then the promises got more realistic. Dinner out planned at at two restaurants locally for when the restrictions lift. That he'd love to be able to spend the night with me and bring me a drink in the morning and snuggle up with us both half sleepy in bed. Lists of films to watch together.

Now the covid restrictions lift and asshole has been blowing cold for 10 days and is very noncommital about a next date, let alone meeting indoors to do any of the minorish plans. However it's definitely not covid related since he's seeing friends etc. He's now debating relocating, and cant seem to commit to the city we live in let alone me. I was initially thinking it must be so challenging on his part to be facing all these weird big transitional life decisions and maybe I should give him some space.

Thanks for the breadcrumbs guys, I'm gonna drop this hot potato.