posted this once before but this is basically a how to guide for going down on a girl. so you have a girl you want to wow. or a girlfriend or wife you want to make feel appreciated. well, there's really no better way to take care of her than one of those thigh clenching, sheet gripping orgasms. and the best, most unselfish way to do that? to show her that this is for her, not you? going down. so the first tip is that like most things in life, it's the journey not the destination. take your time getting there. start with clothes on. and by there i mean, kissing her softly, sweetly, light flicks of tongue (read: little to no salive) all over her body. trace her panty line. run the tips of your (smooth not jagged) finger nails up and down her body. slowly remove her jeans, skirt etc. every time you're about to get to her little hot spot, move over them. graze them. don't touch them at all. move to a different spot, like a bird swooping down and then lifting back off the ground right before he lands. let the anticipation build. by the time, you finally touch her for the first time, she should be begging you. kiss the inside of her bare thighs towards panties, then move over it to the other side. lightly snap the elastic of her panties when she can barely stand it, move your lips right on top of where you think her clit would be, and give it a firm kiss with your lips. by this point, she's going to rock her hips right into it. kiss softly and wrap your hands around her ass. okay. now she's finally ready to start. make a big show of taking off her panties. do it calmly. she's ready for you. take your time. be confident. you know she wants this. you know you're going to do it. it's all a matter of when. okay her panties are off. she's mostly naked now and feeling self-conscious about it. lower yourself to her, and breath softly on her little pussy. let her feel the warmth of your breath. slowly, put your lips down and graze her lips with yours. soft. not too much pressure. think of kissing the outer petals of a rose. no tongue yet. that comes later. let her warm to you and warm to what's happening. this is a good point to say that at any time she may be feeling a little anxious. women are incredibly complex and cerebral about sex. she may be thinking about how she smells or whether or not she's reciprocating. so at this point, you want to reassure her that she smells good. so you say something, "mmmm" or "i love the way you taste". you want to put her at ease. let her know that you're enjoying what you're doing. she might try to pull you up with her hands. it's okay for you to playfully rise up and kiss her and place her hands out of the way (behind her head or pretending to glue her hands to the bedposts). let her know without words that you're taking care of her today. okay now, you're down there and you've given soft tender kisses. begin lightly with your tongue against her clit. for guys that don't know, the clit is under the soft folds at the very top of her lips. if you can't see it and it's not engorged enough to be visibile, you can lightly pull the skin at the hood (read: top) of the vagina upwards towards (toward her belly) to reveal the clitoris. it looks like a tiny little flesh cone and it's where there are a lot of sensitive nerve endings. because of this, again, LIGHT. light flicks of the tongue. a lot of pausing. light grazing of your lips. let her ease into the sensation. now that she's into your touches against her clit, you vary it up. the best way i can say it is vary things while keeping a rhythm. if you're musical at all, try conducting an orchestra or song with your tongue. if you're not, trace letters of the alphabet. or numbers. or messages to her. whatever keeps you with a good visual in your mind of whatever you're doing with your tongue. vary the way you use it. the tip of your tongue can be flicked. the wide soft part of your tongue for surrounding her little clit. never use porn tongue. that's for show. your tongue is a remarkably pliable and useful instrument. there are a hundred ways to touch her with it. be it tracing, flicks or just a good old fashioned french kiss make out session with her clit. at this point, it's getting a little wilder. above all, listen to what her body is telling you. if her hips press up into you, she's wanting you to lick harder. if she's scooting up the bed, she's wanting it lighter. LISTEN to her. if you're lucky, she's telling you that it feels amazing. if she's shy, you need to train yourself to listen. moans are good. thighs clenching are good. back arching is good. look up, are her eyes open or closed? is she relaxed? if she's not enjoying it, try something else. if she's enjoying it KEEP DOING IT. i like repeating complex patterns as i'm doing it, usually ones that increase in intensity and duration as the pattern repeats. flick flick trace. flick flick trace lick. flick flick trace lick kiss. flick flick trace lick kiss spiral. flick flick trace lick kiss spiral trace. and so on. see how many patterns you can get through before she comes. most of the time, it's not many. lastly, after you've accomplished all of these things and are comfortable with them, there's the multi tasking. you have these things called hands that can be roaming her body. gently touching her sides and her breasts. i usually save these for after the escalation. when her breathing is ragged and she's getting close. a few light caresses of her nipples earlier to harder ones as she's about to come can help bring her over the edge. learn to do this without breaking the concentration of what you're doing with your mouth/tongue. or of course the gentle insertion of a finger into her as you're tongueing. insert a finger nail down finger into her and lightly curl the tip of your finger upwards to find her g spot (assuming she's lying back down). you have a mouth. vocalize. hum your approval of what you're doing. the vibration of your mouth into her little pussy feels amazing. let her know you're enjoying it too. different positions have different pressures. she can sit on your face, you have to angle yourself differently. if she's on her back, you have better access to her clit. if she's on all fours, you can lick her down to up. explore. you have your mind. if you're listening, you know when she's getting close. you can feel it. you can bring her right to the edge of the cliff, and then tip toe on it, then bring her right back. this builds her orgasm. not all orgasms are created equal. some are quick and fast. some last forever. some explode like supernovas. if you can keep a girl on the brink of coming, it's going to be intense. also, keep her close without coming down to far. she has to stay stimulated. keep her in that great zone, or else she'll get frustrated. the key is instilling in her the faith that you will eventually take her there. lastly and this is the most important one. every girl is different. every time is different. the most important thing is listening to her and the situation. she might want you right away. she might want it sloppy and aggressive. sometimes you rip her skirt up, pull her panties to the side and make her come as fast as she can. other times, you do it quietly because you're vacationing with her parents and she has to keep it quiet. others you have hours on a sunday and you wake her up like the best version of breakfast in bed. find out what she likes, and give it to her THAT way. the point is that you should love doing it. not because it ll eventually come back to you (it will, tenfold) but because you can actually give tremendous amounts of pleasure to a girl you (hopefully) care about. have fun!