I guess I didn’t mean it in the sense that the sensitive subjects are off limits from being brought up at all, just that if you’re aware of a particular thing that they’re insecure about, you would learn to communicate upfront still but probs not as harshly as other things you would say.

For example if your girlfriend was particularly a shy person and talking to new people was something she’s insecure about maybe due to social anxiety or the like, and you brought her around your guy friends and their girlfriends. Obviously it might bother you she doesn’t get on with the other girls like your friends girlfriends do so well and it comes off to them she’s stuck up or whatever. You know your gf is insecure about something like that and you wouldn’t just bluntly tell her she comes off like a bitch or something that might make her feel more insecure about it (aka being an asshole about it) but rather just say something like how you’re glad to see her socializing with the girls of the group and how much it means to you and happy it makes you to encourage her out of her comfort zone to make those friendships and gain some confidence.

I feel like it just comes down to saying how you feel vs saying how you feel by being an asshole about it lol