What are some not so obvious signs that your yt friend is 'taker'

I'm running! What are the not so obvious signs that your yt friend is a 'taker'? I feel like I need to equip myself with the knowledge so that I'm able to detect it early. Some yt women are chameleons.

She read all the anti-racism books. Posted on her social media. We would spend hours talking about structual racism. I'm finally understanding that this means nothing.

But what I failed to see was how she held me to a different standard than her white friends. She even got angry at me for speaking to a stranger at a bar that she was considering but had no problem pursuing relationships with men who were taken. I spent countless hours validating her (she had issues with self esteem) but was told that she couldn't provide that same support to me. I was her only
Black female friend. I'm now questioning if it's even possible to have meaningful friendships with yt women.

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