What are some red flags when it comes to dating?

Luckily, most of this I learned by watching my mom date instead if by experiencing it. By the way, I think people a lot of people are confusing critical flaws with red flags. Drug addiction is a critical flaw. Imo a red flag is something that may seem benign but turns out to be indicative of a major issue in the relationship.

No shared hobbies or interests. If we can't spend our time together doing fun stuff, why are we even together?

Constantly doing bad/questionable stuff and coming up with a justification for it. Integrity is pretty important imo.

No empathy. If they can only see their point of view and their issues and their life and can't see things your way or understand your perspective, it going to feel like they're really insensitive, which will drive you apart. You have to be able to support eachother.

Talking badly about people. If they always have something bad to say about someone, you can bet they do it about you. It shows that they have no respect for anyone. On a similar note, having mutual respect is critical for long term relationships. All the happy couples I've seen have respect for eachother.

And a bit of advice: have realistic expectations for what you want. If you met on Tinder or at a bar and just want to fuck, then by all means, go right ahead, but I would caution against trying to force a relationship with that person. If you're constantly arguing and you don't actually enjoy being around the person, just admit to yourselves that you tried to take it somewhere that it wasn't meant to go. If you want to settle down, try meeting someone by doing something you like, whether that be in a running club or a clay wheel class or abroad or whatever. You'll have common interests and experiences and you'll get along better.

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