What are some toxic traits you've noticed in yourself that you picked up from them???

Oh man this is gonna make me sound like a jackass. Let's start with my mom, cause that's the scary part...

I'm obsessed with my outward appearance/image to the point where I care about it more than anything else. This week my therapist asked me to tell her next week "what I like to do for fun". I can't think of a SINGLE thing. The only thing that seems appealing is to go to the gym, and that's so I can build enough muscle so that I can wear a tank top and show off my full sleeve... yeah, can't you tell I'm a former fat kid over here? (Thanks for the psych drugs, Nmom!)

My ex used to say I was a snob about my education. I feel like it was a "road not taken" thing for her (though after she had her kid and the opportunity was presented to her, she didn't take it) but I realized I legitimately was patronizing sometimes. My mom would do this to EVERYONE she presumed to not be highly educated.

I don't know when to exit a situation, even when it's in my best interest. This led me staying in my last job much longer than I should have. My mom do this repeatedly with her jobs and it was hard to watch, because I thought it was really really hard to get a new job. My parents always, ALWAYS had difficulty finding work.

Now for my dad...

Well, we've both fought each other pretty much my entire life (like, bad) and when you're in a fight you know how you just sometimes say the meanest most fucked up thing you can think of... this was a thing I thought was normal cause that's what he did "when he was mad". BUT I'm proud to say I have successfully stopped this!!!

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