What are some toxic feminine traits you have experienced?

My mother was unaccountable to an extreme level, she was also very unpredictable. She would create unwinable situations for my dad and us kids then get mad when we couldn't reach the ever changing standards. She would shit talk and gossip family info publicly and not ever look for results. She would be an absolute menace to her family family who were also toxic as shit, but then in the next moment group up with them to shit talk my uncle or other auntie. Overall, any positive example of being a mother, wife, sister or daughter was spoiled for me.

Although she did not physically scar me, that is once I got to be a teenager and she couldn't just hit me in a rage anymore. The emotional damage of constant gaslighting and lack of accountability emotionally scarred me and left me in a constant battle for reality checking and having to consciously focus on what is healthy. Not what feels natural, because thanks to that woman, my normal is extremely unsafe.

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