What are your partners flaws and why do you look past them?

I have told my husband this too.

For me it's when I found his friends taking advantage of him, broke my heart and pissed me off. Back in college, there was this guy who would constantly hit him up only when he needed husband's help with tech stuff.

More recently, his old coworker would spin these heartbreaking sob stories. Came over to our house on a Sunday morning, and spent the whole day getting his help for her work because she was falling behind; it was nearly 8 pm by the time she left, and husband had written all her code for her.

She'd smoke pot all day, every day, and hadn't delivered a single thing in over a year.

She told my husband she was helping out her family financially, and was in debt for $40K. Meanwhile, she was vacationing in Italy and Scotland, buying expensive perfumes and handbags. I told my husband right then that she wasn't simply "venting", and she'd ask for money soon. Sure enough, she messaged saying it was an emergency and she needed money.

I told my husband he should make the decision he was most comfortable with. That lady was a pro at making herself out to be this pathetic victim of circumstances.

I've seen this too many times in my mother to ever buy into it. Husband was super cut up and seriously considered giving her something. He called another colleague (among their group of friends) and told him about her request to borrow $$... and the first thing that colleague said was "dude, you are a bleeding heart. This woman knows it, and is taking advantage of you."

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