What are your thoughts on arranged marriage?

All relationships need work. At least that's my opinion and I believe in it. How much ever you love a person, you might get sick of certain things they do and in the long run, it's going to hurt the relationship.

In an arranged marriage, they look for the qualities you'd look for in a person anyway. Is the person earning, good looking, shares at least some common interest, is he/she an addict, etc. So I think it's not as bad as it sounds.

Sure, you may not be in love with the person but you learn to work on it. More often than not, people of almost same socio economic conditions marry so there's a good chance the relationship might actually work. And if you're an introvert who can't get a date for the life of you, but actually have your act together, arranged marriage might be a blessing for you.

But, all that said, I do think it can skew sexist and has little to no diversity. Women are held to a different standard than men. Certain qualities are looked for. They try to know if the woman has had multiple boyfriends, might even expect her to be a virgin. They might look for a person of the same ethnicity. I'm not saying that's wrong per se, but if you're a person who doesn't mind dating a person of different nationalities/ethnicities, this might not be ideal for you. Gay marriage ain't happening. Arranged marriages are usually for straight people as far as I've seen. And for all your life, you're going to know that your parents looked for a bride/groom for you and it wasn't your choice. You gotta live with that. When the initial love is missing, it might be hard to work on the relationship.

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