What has been your biggest relationship mistake/regret so far?

It's possible that she wasn't able to figure out what was "wrong". She may still not know the answers.

Here's a guess, based on what you've said: She married you because you're a great guy who loved her so much. You took care of her and supported her and made her feel safe. There was no seriously major drama. There wasn't anything obviously wrong. Her family and friends really liked you. Everyone was happy for you both. There was no reason not to get married. This feeling of uncertainty, she thought, was probably nerves and she would be stupid not to marry you. But she was too unsure of herself in general to trust her own gut. She should have listened to herself, but she was too insecure. She probably had(has) a lot more growing to do and didn't completely understand what she wants.

Just a guess.

If I'm at all right, please don't let this experience affect your own self-worth or leave you too bitter. Your future relationships will be so much better because of what you've learned.

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