What is the best advice you can give to all the single redditors?

I'm gearing up for my second marriage now, and now that it's been 5+ years after the first one fell apart and building my new one with a woman who is a much, much better match for me, the best advice I can possibly give you is this:


This woman is your best friend, confidante, and your life partner. You can tell her anything, and you should do so. Desires and expectation not vocalized were a big part of my first marriage failing, and it doesn't have to happen. While it might seem like she can read your mind, she cannot actually do so.

If you want to go out for a drive and there's stuff to do around the house, don't just tough it out because you feel you should, talk about it with her! Maybe she wants to blow the day off and hang out with you instead, but she feels the same way and is feeling the pressure of "not being a good wife because the house is messy" (quote and insight provided by my fiance). The most important thing is to talk about everything. Talk about money, where it needs to be spent, where you want to spend a little extra, what you want to save towards. Talk about your expectations for a living area, do you want to move to a bigger place, does she want a bigger place, do you want to live closer to work, etc. Talk about health issues! My ex-wife had headaches for years, but often wouldn't tell me if she was having a bad one because she didn't feel it was important. If I'd have known how often she was having them, I would have been much more insistent on her seeing a doctor. During the divorce process, she found out she had a brain tumor. If you're having health issues, talk to your wife about it, even if it's embarassing or doesn't seem important. You're the most important person in the world to her; trust me, she'll want to know when you're hurting or not feeling right.

Sorry for the wall of text, but I can't stress it enough. Communicate all the time, and you'll avoid a lot of potential strife and hurt.

TL;DR - Talk to her about everything!

/r/AskReddit Thread