One of the members hurt me, was a roommate, so i moved out and eventually stopped hanging out with group that we both were in.

That person kept showing up at my new place, so i began trying to hang out outside my new home. I'd go out with friends places, like to play darts, shoot pool, play disc golf, bowl, play basketball, etc.

This person didn't like that even more than me moving out ... he claimed i was 'trying to steal his friends' as none of them would ever ask him to hang out like that.

I looked for a new place to live, where he'd not know, but to make rent i required a roommate. One of my friends suggested that since i couldn't find someone to roommate, that they'd roommate with me. I agreed. We moved in together.

However, during this time, my friend group kind of stood up for me and stated that they wanted all of us to be able to play together again.

So, the offending person, offended of the support and help o was receiving from our friends, left group. They were suffering bouts of of jealousy, and plagued themselves with paranoia that we all plotted against him and that i traded loyalties away from him, to the others, years ago. Truth was i did not want him to leave the group. Yes, i could not live with him, but he was not a horrible terrible person, he just some problems (we all do).

In leaving, however, he soured one friend who completely disagreed with my "leaving" that hurtful friend for something he considered trivial in comparison. The others were a bit shaken, but i think we are recovering. It did however scar our group, it is healing but he is like a missing limb, one that we sometimes reference like phantom limb, but who is missing.

My other friends, in a different group, also did not agree with me 'leaving' and moving out. They simply did not understand what happened, but they stopped inviting me over anymore, and stopped calling. I did reach out, but they are busy and haven't returned calls. I think they are all gone now.

The only friends that i have now are the ones that stood up for me. I am forever in their debt, and they have won my extreme loyalty.