Listen, as someone who considers themself an uggo, you've pointed out two flaws already.
I'm not talking pomade and rejuvenating lotions on your junk, I'm talking about hair combed, decent outfit with no wrinkles, deodorant. That's really the bare minimum you have to do to look "decent".
But the big thing is that you ruled it out. That says a lot. It really projects outward, and if you're not in a headspace to focus on grooming, that's fine, but you're probably not in a headspace to focus on relationships either.