What can I do to figure out the feelings for the guy I'm with, and why does BDSM sex make me fall for him harder? [F19] [M47]

I've read a bit of psychology regarding the sexual attraction of men and women by Jordon Peterson. A clinical psychologist who teaches at the University of Toronto. In no way am I a professional or claim to be one. But my laymen understanding is that women like to be dominated. This is why women generally date older men, who are competent, socially, financially, physically perhaps, etc.. and it sounds like that's why you're attracted to him. But you need to separate lust and use logic sometimes. This man is much older than you with absolutely nothing in common and has nothing to offer for your future except for sexual satisfaction. If need to find someone your age group if you want any long-term happiness.

Though it's still legal it's a little creepy he's looking to sleep with someone so young and it's rather questionable. Don't take the expedient route and please move in with your life.

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