What do you think caused your shyness/social anxiety?

Up until I started kindergarten, I never played with other kids besides my brother because my parents moved to Australia when mum was pregnant, they didn't know anybody except relatives who were already here. I never learned how to talk to other kids. When I started kindergarten late in the year, few others went out of their way to talk to me, and when they did I wouldn't know what to say, I would just stare blankly at them. I think I did this partly because I was stupidly self conscious about how I talked, I pronounced my R's while everyone else talked "normally" it took me a while till I realised that nobody cared, that I wasn't being judged. Along with not knowing how to talk to kids, rarely would anything come out of my mouth. This was how school was for the next few years, sometimes another kid would hang out with me for a while but eventually they would get bored by the end of lunchtime. In year 4, one of my teachers noticed I didn't have any friends so she asked someone else to be friends with me, so we ate lunch and played together but it still took me a while to start talking to him, that friendship ended when the year was over because we never talked over the holiday, in the next few years I made several friends because they were so much like me that it was hard not to talk. Fast forward to now (18 graduated high school) and ive broken out of my shell a bit and finally starting to learn how to interact and converse with others, something I never learned because I was too bloody quiet half my life. Im starting to like social situations because I've been forcing my way into them, getting a job helped a lot. I have plenty of friends now but I'm still trying to work out how to converse with anyone I haven't known for a year. So long story short, I didn't talk for most of my life and now I don't know how to.

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