What could a young man like me [21M] could do to stop thinking about girls?

We are human. We are designed to procreate. Dating is the avenue towards procreation. That's why it is completely acceptable and healthy. You cannot compartmentalize aspects of yourself and throw away things you do not like. That's not how it works. It's like chopping off your arm.

Dating, having relations with the opposite sex, is so worth it. That's why many people are willing to spend money on it, why it's used so much in marketing. Sex is a major driving force in humanity and you cannot seperate yourself from that unless you are asexual. And let me tell you, you're no asexual. You're a scared man.

You are scared.

Multiple people have told you the truth. Your sense of the world, self, women, and dating have been so warped by depression and isolation. It is time to seek therapy and medication.

Not in a week, not in a month, not in a year. You need it now. As a fellow person who was diagnosed with Major Depression: I can see you're steeped deep into an episode and if I knew you, I would call 911 ASAP. That's right. That's how badly you need help. Let me tell you, there is nothing to be afraid of when it comes to therapy. Or medication. But you certainly need it. You cannot help yourself when your mind is warped. It's like fighting a battle with sand in your eyes, and the sand really stings.

Perhaps you'll ignore me, like you have ignored the others.

You'll climb into your hole and will continue to suffer for absolutely no reason. Or you can get up and walk straight into therapy and fix your life and self and actually breathe.

It is your choice. But certaintly, inaction is not the right choice from past experience.

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