What is the creepiest thing you've ever done?

I don't know how "creepy" it is - I've probably done creepier things that I'm not even aware of, but when I was 21 I was still pretty naive in the ways of the dating game. I've always been a very confident and outgoing/gregarious girl and when I was 21 I was cute, I worked at a nightclub, and I dated a lot. Like, a lot a lot. But, just because I dated and slept around a lot doesn't mean I knew what I was doing - I didn't. I was under all kinds of false impressions about what guys liked and I worked among musicians and bartenders, so my examples were not great to begin with.

One false impression I had was that guys didn't like a girl who stayed the night. I didn't want to seem clingy so I would make a point of NEVER spending the night. I was also under the impression that men basically had no feelings. Yea, I know that sounds stupid and it was, but I really just didn't get it. I heard the guys at work talking about banging drunk bitches all the time and I just really didn't know any better. I had never really been in love and I had never really been vulnerable to anyone or anyone to me, I only really dealt with guys who wanted to hit and quit, so I sort of hopped on that game (pun intended).

Well, this guy started djing at the bar and I got to know him a little. He was kid of cute but awkward. Sort of hipstery guy. He seemed like, you know, a dj. And dj's, last I checked, mostly just did coke and bang drunk girls so I figured that was this guy. It never occurred to me that he was a real person with feelings who might've been actually interested in dating me. It never occurred to me that may be when I was showing him a whole lot of attention that he may be thought I really liked him (which I did) and that he considered me girlfriend material (which apparently he did)...

Well, we went on a date and everything was fine until we got back to his place and I guess I was pretty aggressive. In retrospect there was no way he would've slept with me that night. In retrospect he probably thought I was a nice girl and that I was just going to come in for coffee. I know he was - for some reason - very nervous about sleeping with me, but I was kind of aggressive about it. I mean, I didn't realize how aggressive I was being - I just thought that's what you do - you go out with a dj you go back to his place and do it, what's to wonder?

Mid-coitus I kind of realized he didn't want to be doing it. May be he was drunk, may be he was self conscious, may be he just didn't know me that well, may be he was disappointed because he thought I was someone I wasn't, not sure. But, after the very disappoint sexual encounter (not at all his fault!) he went to sleep and after lying there for a significant amount of time I decided it was time to go home and I slithered my way out of there.

I can't imagine what he thought the next morning. Here he had a great date with a co-worker only to take her home for coffee for her to aggressively jump his bones like he's a piece of meat and then leave in the middle of the night. He was apparently so creeped out by me after that that he quit the job at the bar and told one of the door guys that I was "fucked up".

I explained to the door guy what happened and he told me "Ah! See that guy is a NICE guy. You don't date nice guys, so you fucked it up!"

TLDR; Went out with a nice guy thinking he was the usually bar scumbag, got way too aggressive, coerced him into an unwelcome sexual encounter, and then probably made him feel entirely inadequate by sneaking out of his house in the middle of the night resulting in him being so uncomfortable around me he quit his job...

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