What did a SO do that made you stop and realize "They're NOT the one"?

We broke up on Presidents Day this year after being together for 4 and engaged for 1.

She doesn't want to live in this city forever. I don't really want to leave.

We weren't really that happy. Hadn't had sex since October for different reasons but for 2016 it was only a handful of times. A mixture of "no sexy stuff" when there were outbreaks and just not wanting to when everything was clear.

SO kinda stopped taking care of herself for a significant amount of time. Even when I had to stop lifting cause I hurt my shoulder I watched my diet. She wasn't doing either.

Just didn't like the way forever looked if I had to move away from family and friends and be with somebody who was always tired and always sick and always breaking out with cold sores and had a butt that got cheesy after we got engaged.

I don't think it's the end for either of us.

Also found out everyone thought she was mean to my brother, including him. Nobody wanted to make me have to choose her or anything. But when I heard that it was like, alright, it's good she's gone. My bro felt like he had to walk on eggshells around her with what he said. Poor way to be on SO's part. That dude is my best friend for LIFE. We ride and fucking die together and he'd legit do anything for me and would have for her even with her being mean. You don't be mean to that guy. You appreciate the support he provides.

I'm focusing on getting buff again, buying a house, and making more art.

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