Oh, I totally understand how you feel. At some point in the process, it absolutely is a choice.. but also an addiction. A heroin junkie chooses to buy drugs, then they choose to shoot up. Do they necessarily want to be a junkie? Do they want to need that high? No, I'm sure they'd love to function normally.

I'm 8 years in with my addict. We're on the last trial this time. My adage has been, "if you have a problem with it, change it, accept it, or leave it, but don't bitch about it." That said, after so long of catching the lies, getting my hopes up, then catching more lies, then rinse and repeat.... I'm done. If we have one more "slip", I'm out like a fat kid in dodgeball. I've made that clear to him. If he can't make better choices, I'm not accepting it anymore. You're not word dumping, honestly, it's a huge relief to hear my story from someone else's mouth, so to speak.