Straight women are generally attracted to masculinity. Everybody’s definition of what masculinity is differs, blah blah blah, but the point remains. So of course if I say I feel safe with my SO I’m saying I appreciate that about him. I appreciate that about him that is different from myself, because I’m, y’know, heterosexual.

And if I’m with him, it’s almost like I‘m experiencing the world as him, meaning as a man rather than a 5’0 100lb female... Many men like to be totally dismissive of this but the fact is that the world is pretty damn terrifying from the eyes of a woman. Does this mean I walk around 24/7 scared shitless? Of course not, but it’s like having a weight off your shoulders that you don’t really notice you have until it’s gone.

Also, this one’s just for me personally, but I’ve been abused extensively in the past so if I tell my SO that I feel safe with him then to some degree I’m just saying that I trust him in a way that is particularly difficult for me to do, generally.