This post makes me sad. I've tried to comment a few times now, but didn't know how to word it without sounding mean. So here goes nothing..

Honestly, this viewpoint is likely why my new MM has chosen me to have an affair with. I love and enjoy sex, all aspects of it, from mild flirtation to sexting and then body play.

I didn't know until after he'd chosen me that he pretty much lives in a DB. Because his wife views sex as simply penetration and doesn't give him the play and excitement and flirtation that he desires and needs.

I get it, not all women can orgasm from PIV, but that shouldn't make you literally despise the act itself (as it sounds from not just your question but all your responses to others).