Side note: I realize I'm not wording this perfectly (I'm only on a few hours of sleep). I mean to say I dont disagree that idealization is an unhealthy trait (it is), I just think it and a healthy relationship arent entirely mutually exclusive. No one is perfect and we are learning how to process love and emotions the best way we know how to and at different steps in our journey. I feel its counterproductive to ignore the nuance involved and our respective levels of growth instead of labelling things as either simply good or bad. I've been in lukwarm relationships without FPs that left me suicidal and now I'm in a relationship with idealization that makes me happy and we both work on growth. I just think we need room for nuance because we're already so used to black and white thinking.