cheating isn’t just sex. It starts with a conversation. I’ve cheated and the self-control thing baffles me, too. I know I’m doing something “wrong” but I can’t make myself stop doing the wrong thing. Really tho, cheating isn’t anything. You have no idea why you think a relationship should work the way you think it should. Someone made a relationship design and told people that that was the way it had to be. People are complex individuals, and love and sex are two different things. I love my long distance girlfriend, but she’s not here. I understand that if she were here, I wouldn’t partake in these activities. I love her endlessly, but I also wouldn’t put myself through it to be lacking human connection like that. To me, whatever I do for connection or affection does not in any way lesson my love for my significant other. However, it is “wrong” because society said so and because I said I wouldn’t do that. The thing about it, is people are forced into monogamy for connection. I need to feel a connection with one person and love one person and that makes sense to me but for some reason, to keep that connection, I can’t do something that makes me feel good just because it also makes someone else feel good at the same time? So, I can’t even risk addressing this with my person because I might lose my connection? Put it all into really simple caveman terms and you come to realize none of it makes sense. That’s why so many people cheat. There isn’t an option to love someone and still be free in certain ways. People think fucking somehow equates less love and I don’t get it