She's (fiance) a woman who wants to have her sex change into a man because she wants to be the "supporter" of the relationship, the breadwinner and have my friend be the stay-at-home type, and because she can't stand the idea of other people having sex with my friend but my friend has no problem with the fiance having sex with men or women.

I've admitted my mistakes, and I'm not proud of them. Before things got out of hand, I always thought of the fiance as a good person who'd had a lot of bad things done to her, and she was just trying to protect herself and the girl she loves. I gave no reason for either of them to suspect me, the fiance was just paranoid and jealous because she was scared that I was a better person and my friend would leave her for me. I wanted to help her to the best of my ability, but she never took to it. Nonetheless, the ultimatum was my deal breaker. By no means was I a negative influence on either of them. As a matter of fact, there was a time when my friend told me that I had rebuilt her trust in men and set a new high standard for how a man should be despite my problems.

I wanted all three of us to get along. I asked my friend what she wanted, and she said she wanted the same. I asked the fiance what she wanted, and she said she wasn't sure, somewhere between that and having me out of the picture because it would be easier. I think know exactly who was in the wrong.

I've never sought professional help, and I never will. I don't think people should have to pay money to be told I can only help myself. I've confided with other friends, but they can only offer me so much, so I sought an anonymous source.