An Afrikaans saying will hoperfully help: "Erf goed, is swerf goed."

My grandmother taught by father that and in turn he taught me that. It means that things you inherit are meant to roam and they don't really mean anything. While I am sure it would have been nice to inherit something, you do have something only a few people have. The memories, I can to this day remember every small detail about my grandparents. I was the one that spend the day at their houses and listened to them.

My grandfather use to have me help him around the house, I learned how to work with wood, how to take care of plants and what to do when I drink poison simply because I was there and willing to listen. When they died literally everyone in the family inherited something, I got nothing. After a while though I noticed that everyone around me was fighting about something.

My cousin complained about not getting a jewellery box she wanted while my father and uncle fought my grandmothers other family for every little thing. What was I doing? Sitting in the corner and remembering when she used to let us control the TV and stay up late to watch that one show.

We all inherit something from our deceased loved ones, the value of which is what you place on it. How many times did you get to talk to you mother about a small problem? Has she ever helped you or taught your kids something? A piece of furniture or money can only last so long, you gave your mother something that she could never repay. Do you even need anything that she had?

I know it's still sensitive and you've heard it before, but everyone always fights about inheritance. Someone died and instead of remembering all the good things you are going to tarnish golden memories over things you shouldn't care about.