What was the "I'm done" moment in your last relationship?

We dated for almost two years when we decided to move in together. She was not splitting the rent, which was understandable since she had her own place to live with parents, but she was not very willing to split the groceries. At the time, my financial situation was tough, as I was basically spending all my income to rent and food + occasional dates with her with no chance of making savings. In general she was very frugal with spending money with me, be it going out (we rarely did split the bill) and presents (everything she gifted was easily comparable to cost of one person dinner and never was even remotely close to what I had wanted at the time).

At a friends gathering, our friend asked if we are getting married anytome soon, to which she answered that we are not getting married. I was not planning it either, it certainly did hurt me that she is so straightforward about this with other people, even though we didn't discuss it before. Yes, she had a bad near-marriage in her past relationship, which left her feelings hurt, but there was another way to answer this question. And on a ride home that night she said that she had the longest relationship with me and that I was a good partner...

The next day, she was playful and asking for cuddles, but I said I could not do it anymore, as I don't feel loved in our relationship. She decided to leave, and then when she saw that I did not stop her, she also took her stuff with herself, so she completely moved out. I did not stop her. I usually followed reddit advice in the past and always tried to mend our problems, but at that time my tipping point had been reached. I waited to see if she would try to find a way to fix how I feel, but she never did.

A week later we met to discuss what had happened, and we arrived to a conclusion that we did not love each other the way each of us wanted, or we had different love languages. We split our ways that day for good, on a somewhat good note.

After a lot of thinking over, all I understand is that it had to be done much sooner. A lot of the things which I did not like, but tried to fix, simply piled up until I could not hug her anymore when she asked. Small things piled up, be it being too close and friendly with her gay pe friend or weird approach to finances, big things did hurt, like when at the very start of our relationship after a small fight she went on a date with another guy, or when she said, that her ex was much sexier that me. I was too in love with her, and I could not afford to lose her since I wanted to be with her so bad for a year before we finally became dating. After many months she got attached and maybe changed the way she sees me, but all the scars and blisters of the way I see her never faded away, and at some point I was baffled how sex became a chore to me and it was not worth it and how I did not find her beautiful anymore the way she was on the beginning of our relationship. She did not change her looks, my perspective became different. On top of that, she turned from an ambitious courageous goal achieving sexy woman to a childish person after whom I used to take care and whom a craddled like a baby when she wanted it.

It's really sad that I invested so much time and rejected other girls (and it is also surprising how much attention I got, even though I was taken) and in the end all I have is this bitter experience, which in some way stops me from starting it with someone else now since I don't want to be hurt again.

Tldr: I have grown apart from her and when she said that we are not getting married to our friend, even though I did not want it either, I could not take it anymore and finished our two year relationship.

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