What kind of OLD message gets your attention?

Yes, because it doesn’t sound genuine. It sounds like a line they say to everyone and it is cheesy and doesn’t feel good. However to say “you are cute and your eyes are stunning” (if it is actually true) is respectful and flirty and more likely to make me smile and feel a tingle of attraction rather than “Fun plans this weekend?” What if she doesn’t have anything fun planned? There is no way to answer that. The first makes you feel good, the second is a weird survey to determine if you have dates set up (not your business yet!) or if you have a ton of friends or if you don’t.

I guess, like everything else, we all seem to be different in what sounds good to us. The best thing is for men to be honest and say whatever is naturally true. Whether it is that she is cute or that you love that she put blah blah blah in her profile because you love that too. Basically, tell her why you are interested.

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