it's tough. when we first started hanging out and even first started dating she had a huge alcohol problem. i contributed to it as i would always drink with her, but i finally cut all that out when i started to see how bad she was with it.

she makes everything about her and can't seem to be happy about anything. one of the things we do as a couple is bowling. i got back into it because she liked it. i started studying it and became pretty good at it while she just does what she does despite all my help. when i rolled my first & second 200-score games in league night with a 115 average, it was a huge accomplishment for me...instead of being happy for me she got upset and talked about quitting because now i'd be better than her. it was a punch to the gut - she knew how hard i'd worked to get those kinds of scores. she knew how many hours and days i put into practicing to get better, and when it finally paid off for me she couldn't think of anything else except how bad it made her feel.

she gets upset at trivial things a lot and she's very insecure, but i'm working on that with her in baby steps. she's starting to come around a little bit, but i think once she puts down the alcohol for good she'll start to really turn the corner. when i was drinking heavily i always hated everything about myself and when i finally put it down i started to see things in a more clear picture... so i'm hoping it works for her too.