You both seem like you have enough crap going on in your life that you should be both be working on your things separately, without each other.
I thought about this before we got together because we both had a lot more problems at the beginning of the relationship than we do now. We have improved each others' situations quite a lot since getting together, really. I mean, he's not homeless anymore since we've been living together for over two months. Took a long time (being homeless is expensive as fuck), but we got there. And I really should have expanded on the financial situation: it's stable enough for us to have a place and pay the bills, it's just that money's coming in slowly right now because I gave my old job to him and I'm getting a new job at the same time. So, neither of us has been paid in like two weeks, but it's happening soon and we do have a plan to get that back on track. I just have a tendency to worry myself to death over everything, so this financial situation that's kinda shitty but ultimately not that bad is turning me into a nervous wreck. But it's going to resolve itself soon, if that makes sense.
You don't have to be perfect; you have to know your issues, and have a plan to deal with them.
I mean... that's what I'm asking for, though. I couldn't look into the future when we got together and see "Oh, I'm going to have a problem with low libido in just under a year or so, better plan for that now!" because it was literally the very last thing I ever would have suspected. But now that it's been going on for a while and nothing seems to help it, I'm trying to figure out how to reverse it. I don't think I'm ready to break up with someone that I love, someone that I'm engaged to, because of one problem that I'm sure we could fix if we came up with the right method/plan/system. I don't want to put my whole life on hold. I was raised to believe that if you love someone you work on your problems together, not drop them like a sack of potatoes at the first sign of trouble. What would be the point of a relationship if that were the case? How could you ever marry anyone with that point of view?
I don't know what kind of career you anticipate, but there are probably places much better than where you are right now.
Right now we're just trying to get some downtime and relax, so we're just working regular jobs rather than really thinking about careers. I know what I want to do long-term, so I'm going to college for it in the Fall and when I get my degree he'll go to college if he's decided on what he wants. But for now we don't need to move (especially since we just got a place together), though we plan on making a big cross-country move in a few years.
22/23 is the time in your life when you should load all the crap you own in your car, and go to the place that is right for you.
We did that, though, because right now the best place for us is an apartment in our hometown while we work on ourselves and get used to being full-fledged adults who pay bills and whatnot. The worst possible thing I could do for myself right now is end the relationship that has meant everything to me since it began, move away from all my family to some unknown city in some unknown state, and try to find a career that, honestly, is just not going to happen with my lack of education or experience. I had other shit come up in college that I had to deal with, and the best thing I can do right now is actually just stay where I am. I'm all for moving away when it actually benefits a person, but I can't personally see any benefit in doing that myself at my stage in life. I'm not going to get a better job by moving cities; I'm going to do it by staying here and going back to college. Basically, I think you're overestimating me haha.
Feeling stress is an indicator that the things you are doing are not working, and that you should try something else.
Which is why I'm asking for advice about what to do, and I feel like "Do nothing, just leave him and go far, far away" is not really advice. I am genuinely happy that it worked for you, but it sounds like you had some actual skills that could be used somewhere. I really don't. And even if I did, I'm simply not interested in just up and leaving him like he means nothing to me.
God, I'm sorry for rambling again. -_- It's too late here, ha.