Man, this really hurts, especially because I have suffered through something similar. My parents were divorced at a young age and for a good five years believed my mother was the terrible one for not letting me see my dad more often. He was always the good parent because he bought me stuff and, in hindsight, wasn't around me enough to show off his worst features.

When I was around eleven, my father somehow admitted to me that he cheated a number of times on my mother when they were married and this was why they divorced. This completely changed my life. I had previously thought of my mother as the reason so I obviously in a state of shock. From this point forward, I was/am no longer able to see my father as a good, kind, and upstanding man. I later go on to find out he used to hit my sisters and alienate the two that aren't his.

All of this was "fine" and could be fixed, but the reason I will never speak to him again is for the simple fact that he does not and never did make his own son a priority in his life. He was not meant to have any kids and he knew this, but he decided that instead of admitting this fact, he would rather, to my face, blame me for his various inabilities as a parent. It's my fault he can't see me even though he contacts me the night of his visitation. It is my fault I am close with my mother. It is my fault he speaks ill of me to his entire family. It's my fault he still lives with his mom. At this point, I realized my mother was a better father figure than this man was, putting me through private school and going without so that I may enjoy life as much as possible.

He did take something that I can never get back though, and that is my childhood. I wish I could say it is comforting to know that there are others who have been through something similar, but it is not. It hurts to know that there are others who have had to go through the same pain that I have felt.