HAH this is such a relevant Askreddit question for me right now. So when I was a child I used to spend my summers at a sleep-away camp. I did this for 9 summers and they were the best summers of my life. Ever since, I've been dreaming of the day that I can finally go back as staff and kind of revisit my childhood. As of about 6 months ago (a few weeks after my ex and I broke up), it had been 7 years since I've been to my childhood camp. I sent out an application and I was accepted; it was a dream come true, and I've been so excited for this summer ever since!
Fast forward to about a week ago. My ex and I are on pretty good terms, and we've been talking to eachother often, but she informs me that she's trying to get a job at a summer camp... but not just any summer camp, she wants to come to mine. WTF. She asks if I'd be ok with her taking an interview and that if I say no she would absolutely drop the idea and look elsewhere. I politely tell her that I'm glad we're friends again and I enjoy seeing her, but I would be very uncomfortable with her taking the job and working at this camp with me, as it has pretty big potential to get weird. I also state that this place and this summer is very special to me, and that it's something I've been looking forward to it for the last 7 years, and I don't want to soil the experience by seeing my ex walking around. She says she understands and that she'll decline the offer. That's that.
Just ****ing yesterday, my ex calls me and tells me she had an interview anyways, they want to take her, and she wants to take the job. I have a 20-minute long argument with her about how she gave me her word that she wouldn't take the job, and how cruel it is of her to want to ruin this experience for me that I've been looking forward to for so long, and she basically takes the stance that "You don't understand what it's like, I'm living in the city and have to pay my own bills, and it's hard to support myself. I need this job. Etc." Basically she's trying to convince me that the job's more important to her than it is to me because it provides her a convenience. By the end of the conversation I was literally begging her, saying "please don't do this to me", shaking from tears, anger, and an immense feeling of betrayal, but she stayed firm in her decision and will most likely be taking the job. Been having to take Xanax to cope with the constant anxiety that my ex is about to ruin the summer that I've been waiting 7 years to experience.
TL;DR: Looking forward to revisiting my childhood this summer at my old sleep-away camp after 7 long years. My ex spontaneously informs me she'll be there with me, even though she had previously given me her word she wouldn't if her being there would make me uncomfortable.