LONG RANT.

I'm utterly annoyed and pissed off at a the son of a family friend. This guy, who I'll call "Joe", meets up with my friend while shes down vacationing in Cali last week. Some background so you understand, Joe used to live up north with us and we haven't seen him in around 7 years, from when we used to be in our preteen stage and now we're all in our late teens. Joe is now a high school senior and I am getting ready to go to college. To catch up we decide to start a Facebook group chat with him, the friend that met him "Anna", another mutual friend we have up here "Jane" and I.

All is well till he brings up the fact that he's coming up to visit during labor day weekend. Since Anna and I are pretty friendly we tell him we can introduce him to our groups of friends so that he's not lonely. Just to be clear we talk about our multiple groups of friends since both of us are relatively popular at each of our schools. Out of nowhere he decides to say very sarcastically that of course we both have lots of friends look at our Instagram followers... He then goes to mock us because we each only have like 200 followers and therefore that means we don't really have friends.

He is literally assuming that since I don't actively use Instagram, meaning my last activity was over a 1 year ago, and don't have lots of followers that I don't have a lot of friends, going into a rant about "Where they at though?" I have never once assumed a relationship between someones social media profile and whether or not they have friends. Also my account is private since I prefer to only have close family and friends on there. I've seen people I know in real life who don't even use social media so does that mean they have no friends and others who are very popular online but in real life are actually very private or not well liked. Of course I'm already annoyed so I say that my followers does now equate my friendships in real life. He then says that "aren't followers friends too, I'm sure most are" Yeah because all 600 of your followers are your friends. He then tells me he doesn't even use it even though when I looked he posted multiple times a week. And then he says "why are we competing to get friends, I mean whats it gonna do (my name), get you into Harvard, I'm pretty sure that won't get you out of (my state)" I have not replied in over an hour before he sent this. Also this is a jab at the fact that I instead of going out of state I decided to stay in state because I want to go to Med School and spending over 20 grand a year just seemed foolish even with over 1/2 scholarships is foolish to me. I don't even know why it was relevant to bring that up considering he has not spoken to me in years and still thinks of me as some shy little nerd from when we were younger, as if people have to remain the same type of person they were in middle school to high school. I have a very active social life and I am very happy with all the different people I've been able to befriend. Also sorry to my grandparents in Asia since they aren't following me that means they definitely don't like me?

And I have been out of the conversation more than I've been in it at this point. My other two friends try to appease the situation and say we've been the three amigas for a while and he adds on that we're "3 amigas in the middle of nowhere" and how its so boring where we live and theres nothing worthwhile to do. And at this point he finally realizes how bored we are he says " your lucky that I'm tired, bruh its 3v1" He then messages me privately to ask for my snapchat, like what?

I try to think of myself as a very calm person but in the span of those 4 hours someone 3 states away made me lose my temper. And the terrible thing is I feel guilty in a way because Anna said that he doesn't enjoy Cali and wishes that they would back to another state that they moved to after they left our state. Like why would someone I feel very annoyed and the only way I can deal with it is to write my feelings out since I decided to not respond at all after the first attempt at explaining to him so thanks for reading my rant. Also I hope he never does visit here because I was very quick to rant about him and show the screenshots to my apparently nonexistent friends.

TLDR: Former friend thinks followers equal friends.