TL;DR I wish they did not adhere to the archaic traditions of our culture and refrain from permitting their children from becoming child brides at the age of 13. Also listening to pleas of domestic violence and rape. I know my English is inferior to a natives but please be civil.

This story begins with my plight for revenge in my relationship, and I know I'm going to acquire accusations of being vindictive but I am justified after our tumultuous relationship deteriorated into violence. And my parents refused to believe me, even with tangible evidence before them, they had preemptively decided my ex fiance was innocent. He's always been given the impunity card and my father frequently pontificates about me needing a 'man's guidance.' My Ex fiance's father sort to incorporate another wife into the caste and he's close friends with my father.

My father heard that he is in a relationship with quite the age disparity and he and my mother spent the whole of the summer contemplating, speculating who this new female is before my mother concluded she must be a profligate whore. "How dare she steal another woman's husband," my mother was really indignant about this because it is demonstrates an actual threat, it's common for older man to take 16 year olds as new brides. We're Romani so we all live in propinquity and the perception we're all kin but to be seen as second wife is a pejorative existence. (Not all Roma adhere to this practise, this pertains to the traditional Moldovan castes.)

The female is me. That's right, I had sex with my fiance's dad, I seduced him with platitudes of a new younger wife. I deceived my parents after my fiance battered me, he incapacitated me and forced himself upon me yet my own mother wouldn't assist me. One positive is that I will not have to attend the bridal market this year to be sold to a different caste for my defiance, but I am now excommunicated from my caste and family as a consequence. I'm worth less than gadje to them now.

I don't need empathy or animosity that this would elicit in RL or outside of excommunicated Romani, domestic violence is easily perpetuated in isolated communities, even vindicated by own our culture. But I have no compunction about the deed because of the freedom I know possess and it is my hope to help other Romani girls in similar situations.

My only regret is being unable to extend help towards my younger sister who is now in the same position as I was, I implored my parents to send her to live with me but I will never receive my father's approbation to be her guardian nor will my mother relinquish another daughter to be defiled. I've tried to solicit authorities to assist me but they are reluctant to intervene, especially when my sister is travelling across many European countries. I was told it's the parents prerogative, even after I elucidated the severity of the situation; she is being prepared to be a child bride! I've only received one email from her to tell me that my father is pursuing prospective matches because he's dissipated though their funds and he needs her dowry. Yes, that is still a thing in Moldovan Romani culture. The bastard is selling his 13 year old (between the ages of 13-15, girls are allocated a partner and married by the time they are 16 in my caste) because they're encroaching on destitution, I've offered to send money but she never replied. Communication is sporadic and can only be accessed when wifi is free, I wish they would let me finance their necessities so they don't have to deign themselves to such extreme measures. The anxiety permeating through my daily life when I remember what she must be going though is intolerable. I just feel so inadequate.

With a wider perspective, improving access to education and Romani assimilation is my first goal after gaining access to my sister. I now work with a charity in Britain which consists of excommunicated Romani people who help people acclimating into sedentary homes and getting children into education. We as Romani need to eliminate the anachronistic aspects of our culture, it's unsustainable in the modern world and it's to the detriment of our people. I wish the Elders would listen, too obstinate but there is hope for younger generations if we can inspire enough change now.