Whenever I say something or mention a fact, or even just talk about shit, my dad seems like he ALWAYS has to add "the other perspective", and while I get that serves a good purpose on occasion, he does it to a level of just being a contrarian. I literally cannot say anything without him trying to counter or argue or say "no that's wrong". Whenever I struggle with something and mention it he doesn't take my side and always finds a way to make it at least partially my fault as opposed to just having my back, and another thing that's really fucking frustrating is even though he pushes the fuck out of college (which is fine since I want to be a history professor one day) he also discredits basically everything I learn with what is usually incorrect, bullshit, or just a flat out conspiracy and will not hear out that he's legitimately wrong, and on the flipside when he's not making everything an argument he's just flat out ignoring everyone. Another issue is whenever I go to him or my mom with shit like mental health, which they flip and flop between listening and recognizing, he sits there and treats it like everything I say I'm using as an excuse even when I'm just trying to list the issues going on, but he chooses to then blame his bad behavior on his adhd and shitty childhood, and this is despite hime constantly preaching accountability.

As for my mom, she's really fucking awful at comforting in times of need and mediocre about being supportive. I'm not necessarily a huge believer in things like "first/middle/last/only child" syndrome, but she's a pretty solid case for it. Her first reaction when I call her or dad out on anything is to straight up attack me and talk about how hard she's worked, which I 110% recognize but believe it doesn't make them infallible. She seems to struggle to talk about or recognize anyone's issues other than her own, and when I've had some serious meltdowns instead of being something solid in the storm she just flips her shit at me.

Now, do not mistake me for having awful or abusive parents, since they're not. They've done a fantastic job at raising us, and 8/10 they are awesome, and when it is crucial they do a fantastic job at dealing with issues and handle them so well I still get suprised after 20 years of life and living with them, they always pull through when it matters 1 1 these are just some lesser issues that are kind of bothering me right now