I would like to clarify something first. When you says it’s your personal opinion that you shouldn’t use pronoun pins unless you are passing, is that only meant for you? As in you personally wouldn’t wear said pins unless passing, but you are ok with anyone else wearing them? Because if that’s what you mean then you are 100% fine. The only thing off in that case is your phrasing. Just make it clear that you are only talking about what you would do, and then we’re all good.

However, if you actually meant that as a general opinion on what others should be doing, then yeah it’s pretty messed up to use passing as a requirement to being comfortable with asking for correct pronouns. The last paragraph is intended for you if this is what you believe. Otherwise it mostly doesn’t apply.

“It’s just my opinion omg lol” is not a legitimate defense against criticism. EVERYTHING you say is presumed to be your personal opinion unless quoting someone else or stating a fact. It’s a meaningless statement that snowflakes or bigots use to deflect from personal responsibility when they say stupid things. It’s so clear that you are personally offended that anyone is criticizing you. Grow some thicker skin and realize when criticism is valid and should be used to reconsider what you have done or said. Not everyone is out to get you. We all make mistakes, and learning from them is what makes us grow as people.