What Is Ruined By Kids?

Pretty much this. Children's behaviors aren't as simple as OP thinks, and it's not only children's behaviors, parents are human beings too and they have feelings too.

"Kids ruin shopping? You're not disciplining them." Kids are energetic, they don't want to stay in one place, they get bored easily, they'll do anything that entertains them. Even if you hold your kid's hand, they might still kick about. What are you going to do? Punish them? Sure, but it won't really stick into their heads. Next time you are on babysitting duty and you have to do some shopping, they'll do it again. And if you want to punish them so bad they won't do it again, how are you going to do it? Bring out the cane/belt, and whip them? Parents are still human beings, and humans have feelings. It's not as simple as "you're not disciplining them," no parent likes to beat up their child, even for the sake of disciplining. Some parents can't bear the painful feeling of hitting the children for the sake of disciplining them. While some parents do beat up their child, it's not as easy as "you ruin the shop's stuffs, you're going to get the cane when we get back home." If possible, parents want to avoid this situation as much as possible, because again, no parent likes to beat up their child, parents have feelings too.

Getting babysitters aren't exactly helpful either, most babysitters will just try to prevent them from doing stuffs that will annoy others, but that's about it. Most babysitters will NOT go the distance to discipline them harsh enough for them to stop.

"Kids ruining your savings? Stop buying them useless shit." Think about it like this. Kids are like GF/BF. You love them, you want them to like you back, one of the best ways about doing this is buying them stuffs. Sure, you may hear stories from time to time from people saying they grew up poor and their parents didn't buy them anything, but in the first place, those children already know their family situation and tries to cope with their parents' financial situation as much as possible. Children aren't dumb, if they know the family's financial situation is bad, they won't ask their parents to buy them stuffs. Similarly, if they know the family's financial situation is decent enough that their parents can spare some, then they will try to get parents to buy stuffs for them.

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