What’s an unspoken rule that is universally accepted?

I lost my daughter a couple of months ago and I absolutely wish this was "universally accepted." Most people try to avoid talking about her at all or the accident that led to her death. But I actually want to talk about her, like all the time, and talking about the accident, while extremely difficult, can be therapeutic and necessary. In both cases, I'm in a frame of mind where I can approach the topic in a safe way

What destroys me is when we're having an innocuous conversation and, to use the example in the proverb, someone says something like "Oh yeah I got this new rope, you should see it, it's so study it would never break no matter how much strain you put on it!" I'm not in a mental state where I'm okay talking about the method of her death (it wasn't hanging, just using the example) and you've just plunged me right into the middle of thinking about her struggling and the rope not breaking.

Seriously.

This proverb needs to be everywhere.

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