I usually start with “when was your last std test”

This way they can’t be an ass to me. Then I say something like this:

“So, I have asymptomatic HSV2. I found out from a blood test, what that means is I don’t get OB, but it does lie dormant in my nerves.

I got it from an asshole who lied about being tested/results. I’ve always used condoms and was the “safe” girl asking if partners were tested, so I was pretty pissed. Most doctors will tell you not to disclose bc it’s not a big deal, just don’t have sex if you’re having an outbreak, especially bc so many people get mouth cold sores aka HSV1 and can transmit those.

I refuse to do that bc I want to give my partners the choice I didn’t get to make an informed decision. I honestly forget I have it till I have to disclose.

I was diagnosed almost two years ago and until three months ago I had a fwb for that time bc I met him a month after my diagnosis. He is still negative. Even though I’m asymptomatic, I chose to take antivirals to protect my partners and I’ve never stopped using condoms.

Do you have any questions I can answer? Would you like some time to think about it or is this something you’d like to run from?

I understand no matter which way you choose. But please be polite and let me know, rather than ghosting.”

That’s how I usually word it