That is because a lot of us were raised to believe that. So i did as expected. I got married had two kids, got divorced. 3 or 4 months later got with my second husband. This time I was bound and determined to not rush into marriage. We still lived together and we still had a baby. Ok thats fine, whatever, baby doesn't necessarily mean marriage. Then 2yrs after my 3rd child. I found out I was pregnant again, this made baby number 4, most definitely was not expecting nor planning that little "pleasant surprise" as I call her. Apparently calling a child, especially your own, an unexpected, unplanned, unprepared and quit frankly the straw that almost broke the camel's back is just rude. Well crap might as well get married, can't have two babies out of wedlock. Right?. Well marriage is the first step of divorce.