I might be able to add to this. Started dating my husband at 16. We are 35 now and two totally different people. At 16 I didn’t know myself and neither did he. We grew together and also grew apart as we starting to figure out our own goals and such in our 20’s. It took him having an affair for me to see the light and realize we aren’t the same anymore. We are still married and have a little baby together but we talk daily about amicable divorce. He is a good person. I am too. His affair, I understand why and how it happened and Im not mad about it. Something about being together so young makes you lose your own self a bit. I honestly think we would make wonderful spouses for someone new. Both of us are great parents and care a lot about each other. Our relationship just isn’t the same. It was like this before the affair so I cant blame it on that. I wouldn’t see your husbands divorce like “she didnt think he was perfect” or vice versa. My husband and I will always be best friends and raise our child together apart should we follow through with the divorce. We just aren’t the same. Sometimes people grow out of each other and need more than the other person will give.