What’s the strongest crush you’ve had to get over?

I was 21. My grandmother and dog died 2 days apart one week. 2 days later in the lab at school my buddy's female friend walked in and said hi to us and sat down near us. She introduced herself with an intoxicating smile. She looked at me sheepishly, blushed, and said "we should get to know each other" and bashfully turned away.

Later on, she looked at her friend and made a joke. When I laughed, she turned at me and said "oh my god, he is sooo cute." The way that made me feel was incredible. I had never felt that happy in my life. I was convinced she was romantically interested in me.

Couple days later, some guy sits down next to her and starts rubbing her back in the lab. I was thinking to myself "who is this creeper?" because I assumed she was single by the way she acted and to be honest, she was waaaay out of his league. She looked toward me later on and just by talking to me I think I blushed a little. I was that stricken. I still cringe thinking about it.

Once I added her on facebook I realized that indeed was her boyfriend, so I gave up hope of asking her out and tried to forget about her. But she saw me in a suit 3 months later and told me I looked stunning. Cue the feelings again.

We had a graduation dinner event, and we were both there. She sat directly across from me. Huge chemistry that night. There was a point where something funny happened, and she looked at me with dilated pupils and smiled ear to ear. So I smiled back the same way. And we just smiled at each other for like 5 seconds. It was crazy how much mutual interest there seemed to be.

She dumped him a few days later, and I found out via facebook news feed. I thought that was my ticket. So I asked her out about a week later. I figured she'd be getting over the breakup and not trying to jump into anything. Plus we lived 50 miles apart and would continue to for a long time. I thought the logistics were shitty, but if she was really into me, she would be down for a date. But she wasn't. We still talked for a few hours and the conversation was amicable. But I knew she was letting me down easy so I gave up.

It took me about 5 months just to get over it. She was intoxicating. But I think she was one of those girls who's crazy and intoxicating at the same time. She obviously led me on and was feeding off the ego stroking of my affection, looking back. 2 years later, I don't think of her hardly at all. I don't have a crush on anyone currently. That's rare for me, I almost always have at least a little crush.

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