I was staying in Kiev for a couple days and one night I ended up staying at the place of some friend of a friend of a friend (there were some problems during the stay that led to this) I had just turned 18, the guy was in his mid forties. At first he seemed really cool, we had a glass of wine and some Shisha in his balkony and talked.
After some time he started occasionally throwing some slightly sexual topics into the conversation. It was very subtle in the beginning. Asking about my boyfriend, how we were doing, he started telling me how he's not the type for a monogamous relationship. He then told me he thought cheating was fine because guys have needs. He then proceeded to ask when I had my first kiss, my first time, how I liked it, how old I was, what I thought about cheating etc. I was getting more and more uncomfortable.
I stopped drinking immediately and became defensive about my answers. I was trying to politely signal that I wasn't comfortable but I didn't want to offend him because I had nowhere else to stay and it was after 10 at that point. I'm not sure wether he just didn't catch the signals but if he did he surely didn't care. He then started telling me about his 17 year old girlfriend and that he really liked having sex with younger girls and that he had cheated on her several times already.
At that point I was scared. I sneakily packed my stuff incase I had to leave in a rush and I was already thinking about places to sleep in the city that I had seen on my way to the apartment. He suggested we could dance to some slow song and later implied we could kiss. I said no. I was so nervous and on edge when he finally got a call from his girlfriend. She said she was coming over tonight and boy I was so fucking relieved. She did come, she was nice, didn't speak any English and they went to bed leaving me alone in the living room to sleep on the sofa.
I slept in my clothes and was awake until it was quiet in their room. (They had some really loud sex before). Then I finally went to sleep. In the morning I left as soon as I could and was just super happy I got out of there.
The thing is he didn't get physical at any point and whenever I directly told him I that I was uncomfortable with something he didn't really push alot further on that which is what made me question myself then and is still making me question myself now. I don't know wether he didn't realize what position he was putting me in. I was in a different country, not speaking the language, not having that much cash on me and having nowhere else to go. It was so scary because it was so real but so sublte and I don't want to know what might've happened if I had been less confident.