I wish I could put a condom on my boyfriend. It's been almost three years and still no sex. I've tried getting him to massage me instead (I give them to him too) but he's so bad at it and doesn't seem to try and get better. He just lightly moves his hands around squeezes a bit, doesnt get any muscle or knots. It's not that he's weak he just has no sense of flexibility or subtlety. I give him a lot of feedback so it's not like I'm not trying. He does the same repetitive motion over and over, doesn't matter if he's on bone or muscle or skin. It never changes even though I've tried to instruct him. I've given him almost hour long massages and let him sleep after and just ask for a massage the next day or something. He flimsily squeezes for less than five minutes and then stops and asks what I want to do that day. It's been like that for birthdays or anniversaries, I'll put in time and energy thinking of fun things to do. For my birthday he had no plans, he just came over and asked me what I want to do. One time I had made plans and turns out the place was closed when we got there. He immediately decided that well the plans shot now I guess we should just go home. He didn't want to find another place to hang out so date night was cancelled. We haven't had sex but when we fool around it's the same deal. I give feed back on what I like and what I don't like and it's like it doesn't fucking matter. It's like he has one recipe on his mind and that's all he can ever do. I'm so frustrated... I want this to work itjust makes me feel like we're not on the same wavelength...