What is something that as a man, terrifies you?

that sounds a bit convenient if you want my honest reaction. Conventionally desirable is self confidence, good health, a career or mission you're passionate about, and social skills. Starving musicians crush pussy - it's not about doing shit you hate to make lots of money. But you can't half ass your career, pr anything, you have to work hard and excel to be attractive. Nobody wants to join up and spend their life with mediocrity.

So what's so bad about living a healthy and happy life? There's nothing fake about it. People like to pretend like discipline makes you fake because you don't really enjoy the discipline, eg: you don't enjoy the gym and eating well; it's total bullshit, discipline builds character. The unhappy people stuffing their faces with fast food and going home to masturbate and pretending this is what they want are the delusional ones. I work hard at my job to be the best. I work hard at the gym because life is more fun when you're jacked. I work hard at being a good friend and brother and boyfriend because family and friends and my girl are important to me.

I love my job, I started out building Flash games and now I run my own software consulting firm. I work with amazing people doing cool shit and I get paid north of $300k for my time. It's nice to be highly valued in the market. I love my girlfriend, she runs her own business too. She's gorgeous and sweet and motivated and a lot of fun to just chill with. I love my friends and family, they, like my gf, have my back and support me and love me for exactly who I am. And of course I'm in great shape, I work out regularly and I eat healthy. My friend is a personal trainer and I've noticed since starting with him a few years ago my energy is way up, my aches and pains are all gone, I'm happier and my enthusiastic about life. There are few things as impactful as good health.

You can do you man but I really feel sorry if you're already so apathetic about your own life. I was a confused 22 year old introvert with a shit job once but I fought to design my life instead of just living and hoping for the best. I commented above because I really just wanted to voice that people can fix these parts of their life. It's not about fake or real, there's nothing real about having no discipline and being miserable all the time because of it. That's just masturbation. If you want to be real admit you're not satisfied and then design how to get what you want from life. If you don't want to be in great shape with a job and a girl you love, that's fucking fine - but figure out what you want then and go get it. One day you'll be dead and your chance to live life on your terms will have passed.

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