What is something you won't tell your friends or family, but you will tell Reddit?

Hey man or woman, I was in a very similar situation to you. 26, good career, affable, physically fit, and a virgin/depressed as hell.

I agree with some of the other comments here telling you to go out there and have an encounter with someone. It won't fix the way you feel, but it may be able to give you some respite and confidence. I'd even say pay for it if you're having a lot of difficulty (I have dated and worked with ex-sex workers in the past. Most of the female variety have issues, but I don't find the issues to be particularly different from the issues most of us have. Unfortunately, life is baggage for some of us. Sex workers are not scary people, and they're in the business of making others feel better about themselves, so they can play a role.) otherwise you should be able to pull something down off the online dating sites (try OKC, tinder, bumble, Coffee meets bagel, everything).

And a bit of forewarning: at my age (30) I am finding the sex isn't as big a deal to me as the intimacy. Having sex does not equal intimacy which is ultimately what we all want, but having had sex might help you be open, vulnerable, and present with someone if the opportunity presents itself in the future.

This is a link to a company run by a friend of mine. He works as a dating coach, and I talk to him a lot about my issues. It may be a point to start if you have the money/time: http://beacon.by/love-systems/be-the-man-she-wants#

(Try and get past the ebook and video which I don't care for and get to the Webinar. They have weekend courses where you can get their models. The company is called lovesystems and I am not associated with them.)

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